Monday, July 4, 2016

Using Kids Strap : What Do You Think?


A week ago I went to BGC to meet up with my sister since she has some pasalubongs for Maco when she went to Bangkok, Thailand. I told her to just go here so she'd see Maco, but the South Girl that she is isn't familiar here. Not even in BGC. And so I went there without Maco. I would like to bring Maco with me but it would be such a hassle and I would just be riding a jeepney that time and the heat was just unbearable.

As I was walking at Serendra after I met up with my sister, I saw this woman having this 'leash' wrapped around her hand and the little girl wearing it as a backpack. I was in a hurry that time because I'm afraid to be caught in a jeepney at 12noon (but still did). And even though I was in a hurry I still noticed it because they were walking to my direction. I saw that the little girl was trying to hold her momma's hands but the woman actually pushed the little girl's hands and decided to hold her phone instead of her daughter's hands. Wow! I said "Oh my God" aloud to my surprise on what I just witnessed. I looked at her with 'What's up' look and then she just have this annoyed look and continued to use her phone. I don't want to make a scene and have a video of me on facebook (lol), so I just continued walking. Well, I should have said something "inspiring" to her at the time like "Girl, the little girl's tryna hold your hands, why not put your phone inside your bag and hold her hands".


Anyway, in case you're not familiar with it, here is what I'm talking about - Kids Leash.

This is really called Kids Leash? Or I just made that one up? Lol
When I typed it on google though, a lot of images of this came up! 

She was not hurting the little girl okay. I just got heartbroken when the little girl was actually reaching her hands but she pushed it away. Man, that was really sad. Oh I just hope whatever it is that she's so busy with her phone was really important. Or maybe she was just really in a bad mood that time. Sorry for the judgment, teh.

Well, I feel sorry on how I felt about the mother. I was being judgmental. And besides, it's still up to us, the parents, on how we would want our children to be whenever we're out. If we'd want this, then fine. :)

But me, obviously - no, I don't want it for my child. Ever since I saw this kids leash on the internet and on some instagram shops, I already felt uncomfortable just by looking at it. Maybe it's just me but I don't like my child to be wearing this.

How about you? 
What do you think about this one?


31 comments:

  1. Well, I dont want to be too judgemental din baka naman warla sila ni baby girl kaya she disregarded the hand. Well for me, whatever the situation, issue or whatever it was, I always opt to hold Jami's hand. Kaya nga mas madalas na wala kaming photos when going out because we (Daryl and I) are always after him.

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    1. Well that's a good point! Baka nga the little girl was being so kulit at the time! But still... Well maybe the mother was so frustrated already! Hehe ;)

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  2. Oh, so sad for the little girl. For me kasi sobrang praning ako, I would prefer to hold my daughter's hand when we go out. What if the leash got broken or worse intentionally cut? Mga ganyan ka wild mag run ang imagination ko so better hold K's hand na lang.

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    1. Lol wild nga! Hahaha! But in reality it might happen nga. Yup me too I'd rather hold my little girl's hand or carry her ;)

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  3. There was a time that I found those things really cute. But when you really think about it, while I understand about the need for security and at the same time allowing your child to have a little bit of independence, I guess it would still be up to the parents to decide. But to reject a little girl like that, that's a no-no for me. My son always reaches for my hand whenever we take a walk anywhere and I'd like to keep it that way. :)

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    1. Yes, it's still up to the parents. Maybe the mother at the time was just really frustrated/annoyed about something!

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  4. Same here. My kid was a toddler nung mauso ito eh. Nakakakita kami nito sa malls na gamit ng parents. Feeling namin ng husband ko ang tingin pa ng parents eh cool sila. Pero parang nakakaawa yung mga bata. For us - bring a stroller, carry the child or do not bring them along with you sa mataong lugar. Kasi kung hindi mo mababantaya ang anak mo in a public place, do not just bring them 'di ba? Nakakaawa kasi tignan in a leash - parang pet dog. :(

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    1. That's what we thought too! I even joked my husband that we'll get one, and I almost died from his look lol

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  5. When my son was in toddler years, naisip ko rin na bumili niyan para pag nasa mall may extra hand ako pag namimili. But I changed my mind, mas ok pa rin pag hawak mo para sure. Baka may pinagdadaanan si mother, depression? :)

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    1. Maybe! Hope all is well with her though and her little girl :) I'm still picturing the little girl's face when she was reaching her mother's hand. Hayy

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  6. For me it's a different story sis. I bought a toddler hand strap for my kids because mahilig sila gumala and I don't want to be the mom screaming in the mall na nawawala kid ko. The hand strap is attached to my kid's and my hand, it's not the bag type. However, I agree with you that the mother should have held the daughter's hand and not use it as a "leash". Kase I would still hold my kids hand and explain to them why we have it. It's the manner of how it is used.

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    1. I didn't know what it's called sorry :) Yep, it still depends to the parents on how it's used. Thank you! ;)

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  7. Um, okay, well I used a toddler "leash" as you call it when my son was still a toddler. Like Mamanee, it was a different story for us. He wasn't confident enough to walk on his own yet but he didn't want to hold my hand all the time (until now, he prefers to walk without holding my hand). The toddler strap was a good buy for us because he can be independent and confident at the same time. I am not offended by this post, but I just want to say that things are not always what they seem. :)

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    1. Sorry I really didn't know what's it called. I think I should've researched more. :) Thank you for your opinion, I really appreciate it! and yes it is still up to the parents on how they would use it. ;)

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    2. No problem! If I didn't have to use it, perhaps I would've thought the same too :)

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  8. When I was pregnant, my single friends warned me against this. Ampangit daw. But honestly, if not for that expression of disgust of my friends, I'd have used this for fear that my son would get lost. When he was 2-3 years old, he was soo active that I was afraid that it will just take a second of negligence and something bad will happen to him.

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    1. Honestly I almost bought one when I was still pregnant but yes, some people said it doesn't look good and so I didn't. :) Toddlers are really ball of energy, super active!

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  9. I've seen some parents use similar types of leashes to their little kids and I personally don't see anything wrong with that. As long as the child is comfortable wearing it and it makes the parent feel secure, then go :-)

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    1. Thank you!! It's really up to the parents. And as a mom myself I just got really sad when I saw that scenario

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  10. I think Lazada calls it a safety harness, that's where I bought mine. When I bought it, I thought I might need it in case we go to grocery together, or anywhere crowded, at least kung sakaling makawala, di sya makakalayo. Pero di ko rin masyadong nagamit kasi more on pakarga ang anak ko, plus, we hold hands more often too. But I think it's really cute, I think of it as his little backpack. hehe.

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    1. I really didn't know what's it called hehe! I almost called it 'rope for kids'. Lol! What's up with me!!! Masyadong literal lang hehe

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  11. I said to myself that I should not judge anyone or I don't have the right thing to judge parents on how they treat their child or how they raise their child. I understand how you felt about seeing that scenario. I could have felt the same way too but there could be a reason why it happened.

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    1. Yes thank you, I was just really heartbroken when I saw the girl's face reaching for her mommy's hand. I judged right then and there, and I was wrong. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it :)

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  12. I really love this safety harness, but I think in this example medyo unfair yung mom...unless of course like she's trying to text something important. For me I liked using it because my elder daughter liked walking a lot but I didn't want to run too much so... :)

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    1. I feel you, it's really hard when we have little toddlers who loves to run around! Hehehe! I guess so, the mom must be really annoyed at the time. Thanks for your comment :)

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  13. We actually tried one of this kids leash. It is actually part of his bag and we initially though it would be great because he really likes to explore and move around. But after trying it once we found out it was kinda difficult to put him on leash because I was afraid he might get choked. But I think it can get helpful din at times. :) Sana lang hinawakan pa din ni mommy si baby.

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  14. Having three (almost four) kids now, I can understand why some parents would choose to use a "leash" like this. I've never had too though. But I do find it devastating when that mom you saw pushed her daughter's hand away. I feel so sad for the daughter. Mas importante pa hawakan yung phone, tsk, tsk.

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  15. i dont mind the leash, i had one before when my daughter was younger, i find it safe and it depends on how you use it, if you treat your kid like a dog then of course thats not acceptable but nowadays ang daming kidnapping and you cant help but let go of your child's hand to reach out for something sometimes (likesay something high up a shelf) in the grocery. in those few short and precious seconds, someone could grab your kid. i like having this leash on my wrist at all times while holding her hand at the same time.

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  16. I always hold my son's hand or looking after him kahit minsan nag aaway kami sa kakulitan nya. I never use that thing, madami ako nakikita ganyan sa mall.

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  17. I never used a leash on my son when he was small. It's either I carry him or hold his hand when he was already able to walk on his own.

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  18. I considered getting one for my daughters because of the kidnapping scare. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to buy one. For me, I dont mind using one, as long as it doesn't "degrade" the child in whatever way.

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