Friday, May 6, 2016

My Toddler Calling Me by my Nickname

Maco, my little one, actually calls me 'Mama'. But one time, I'm not sure where she heard it from,  she started calling me 'Cui' -my nickname. Well, my nickname's really Coi but my little one can't speak clearly yet, so.


At first I thought it was just one time, so I let it pass. But just this morning and last night, she poked me and said "Cui, blah blah blah" (she was telling me something). And so I repeatedly told her that my name is 'Mama', and not 'Cui', that she must call me Mama. But she just kept on silent whenever I say it. After a couple of Mama's from my mouth, she would then say 'Mama'. She did that last night, after a hundred of Mama's from me, she called me Mama, but when she poked me, she said 'Cui' again. I'm worried of course. I don't want my daughter to call me by my nickname.

I remembered when the first time she called me 'Cui' was when someone talked to me, and she repeated it not knowing who 'Cui' was. But then, our househelp laughed and said repeatedly "Cui ang tawag sayo!" (She calls you Cui). I was disappointed of course.

I usually tell our house help that it isn't nice to encourage my daughter on doing something that isn't nice whenever I notice that she's encouraging her. Well, not really encourage, but she would just let my little one be a brat instead of stopping her. To be fair though, I think our house help was afraid that I would be angry if she'd scold my child. So, yeah. I have nothing against our house help, my little one calls her Lola (Grandma) and she's really nice and sweet. It's just that, she's a Lola, and well - Lolas spoils their grandkids.

Just earlier, about an hour ago, she was shouting 'Cui'. But I did not respond. And just right now. She tapped my right leg and said Cui. Idk why but it's making me sad, really. :(

I even told my husband to call me Mama also so that Maco would do the same. Hopefully this works! ;) I don't want to hear her call me by my nickname anymooorreee

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  2. :( I know the feeling! My daughter went thru a stage when she called me by different names. I think she was just copying the people around her. She outgrew it though and went back to calling me mom. :)

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    1. Hopefully she'll be back to calling me Mama sooner! Hehe! ;)

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  3. Oh no... This is somehow alarming. But children, their age, usually adapt everything from the adulta or children surrounding them. I've heard stories like this from my colleagues who are already parents, too. Even with bff's case, her son calls him "Ate" before because she's the eldest sibling in their house. Good thing, her little one learned how to call her Mama instead of Ate. I guess the tactic of making everyone call you Mama in front of your little one will definitely work. :)

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    1. Yes, I've asked my husband to call me Mama all the time! Hehe :)

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  4. Everyone in your household has to call you Mama so she will follow. She's young, be patient.😊

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    1. Trying to be patient hahaha! ;P I just don't respond to her whenever she calls me Cui, and then after a couple of Cuis, she'll then call me Mama :)

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  5. I think she just needs to hear mama often. They like repeating what they hear and what people do.

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    1. Yup, there was a time my husband was calling me and then she copied it huhuhu, good thing the husband noticed and so he told our little one to call me Mama. Hehe! ;)

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  6. (What I intended to write was that) You need not worry as much. Maco is merely learning by imitation and exploring new things. Its good that you sat her down and talked with her since she basically understands you know and that you asked kuya Jo to call you Mama too, it will condition her to do the same. But other than that take note of how frequent she calls you by name and how long it would take her to revert to mama, it can help later when you teach her new things.

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    1. She's still calling me Cui (huhuhu) though I don't respond, and then I'll tell her to call me Mama and then I'll respond. Already told Jojo to call me Mama but he sometimes forgets! Ayayayayyy

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  7. My son also had that phase. I just told him whenever he does that I get sad because I want him to call me mama

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    1. I just don't respond to her whenever she calls me by my nickname hehe

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  8. I find it weird for husbands and wives addressing pap and mama to each other. I just cant take it. But when my husband calls me mama, its perhaps to remind my boys to call me as such and not by my name. I got use to being called mama by my husband and my boys followed as well. Having your husband call you mama may do the trick. Its the same when when we call our first born kuya to keep the younger ones call him kuya too.

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  9. I find it weird for husbands and wives addressing pap and mama to each other. I just cant take it. But when my husband calls me mama, its perhaps to remind my boys to call me as such and not by my name. I got use to being called mama by my husband and my boys followed as well. Having your husband call you mama may do the trick. Its the same when when we call our first born kuya to keep the younger ones call him kuya too.

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    1. I,too, found it weird that couples call each other mama or papa, but now that I have a daughter, I think that's the purpose of it. So that the kids would call them as papa/mama. Hehe ;)

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  10. This has never been an issue with my three kids. But personally I wouldn't worry about it. Kids really tend to copy whatever they see and hear. They'll outgrow it when they're old enough to understand. :)

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    1. Thank you! I just can't wait to get rid of her calling me by my nickname hehehe ;)

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  11. Aw, it's okay mommy :) Because it's part of their growing that what they heard they will imitate it or repeat it, just like my Zd bear but I always talk and explained to him that I'm his mama because sometimes when we talk his papa in skype he calls us "love" or else maybe mag "mama" and "papa" muna kami ng tawagan ng husband ko for our son :)

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    1. Kids hahaha! Can't wait for my little one to call me mama again hahaha! Though she still calls me that, mostly when she's crying or she needs something haha. But if not, she'll just say 'cui' oh well ;)

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  12. My son calls me Nana. Not sure if he's just bulol :))

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    1. At least it's near 'mama' hehehe ;)

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  13. I think it will help if everyone else in the household will call you 'mama' so she'll copy also. Give it time, I'm sure she'll drop the nickname and stick with mama. :)

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    1. Can't wait for it! Hahaha! Sometimes the husband forgets though, so he'd call me by my nickname repeatedly when I'm not responding! Hahaha ;)

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  14. This reminds me of the first time I heard my baby say "mommy"! If only there were a word that could adequately explain how happy I was at that moment in time. It is a moment that I can think about even now, nearly a year later, and still remember it in full color!

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  15. Don't be sad. There is still time to correct. Just make sure that everyone is calling you mama when she's around. Little kids usually learn by copying. :)

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  16. I think it's just a stage. My children also called me by my name when they were toddlers because I think it fascinated them that I had a name other than mama. Don't let it be a big deal and it should pass. :)

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